Comparing kind of sucks. It is the best way to kill a good mood. Yet, for some reason many of us do it on a regular basis. Why? I’m not really sure if there is a simple answer to that. Maybe it’s because we aren’t happy with what we have or we genuinely don’t feel good about ourselves. I don’t know. All I know is that comparing ourselves keeps us stuck in judgment. Either we see ourselves above others or below others. Both are untrue and both come with negative consequences.
But I’m not here to get into the philosophy of this. We all know that it’s not serving us and that’s enough to know, right? I’m here to offer another perspective on comparing. Why not compare ourselves to ourselves? Yah! Compare ourselves to our own previous successes. By asking questions like how am I doing compared to yesterday, am I growing, am I pushing myself further than I did before today?
This type of comparison will drive you towards success in a more enjoyable way. You won’t need to put others down or make yourself feel crappy in the presence of success. You will simple benchmark success based on your own achievements and constantly aim to exceed those every day.
You can never know what it’s like to be in someone else’s shoes. You have different abilities, strengths, opportunities, support, ect… and as a result things will look very different. Just make the best of what you have and wish the same on others! It’s just better that way 🙂
This weeks exercise – I invite you to only compare you to yourself this week. Notice how you feel and how much higher your energy is.
In the comments section below, I’d love for you to share your tips on how you avoid comparing yourself to others. And if you enjoyed this post, don’t forget to share it with YOUR friends. Here’s to spreading the social love!